One of the hardest moments in life is breaking up with someone you learned to love so much.
“I don’t love you anymore…”
Ouch! These words came like a shock to her after a bout of verbal exchange with her first boyfriend. She felt devastated. She asks herself, “How can love, being pure and true, bring pain and torment?” Then, she realized that human love is far from being perfect. Man sets the standard and conditions for loving and the mere violation of which is used as an alibi to stop loving.
This is the very thing she had experienced when she broke up with her first boyfriend…her first love. It seems that her world fall down and she felt useless. She only wanted to just die. Oh yes! She loved him that much making her to become a lady of no logic. It is appoint in her life where she encounter great pain and eventually, she felt numb. Then, she suddenly stopped loving.
She resolved to herself not to let anyone hurt her in anyway again. She built an invisible wall and secures the lock of the door to protect her from being hurt again by anyone who wishes to be near her and later on, drop her like a trash. She became afraid to love. She started to hate men who never know how to value the love given to them by a woman.
For a while, she managed to keep the door unopened and untouched. She thought, she would never learn to love again after what had happen to her first romance. But, she realized that the wall she built couldn’t protect her. Rather, it isolates her from the love and happiness that could be her by choosing to be brave to unlock the door and take the risk to love again despite what happen.
She also realized that loving means becoming more vulnerable to pain. It is after all worth an experience. She simply said to herself that there is someone else who loved her very much with no exemption and the love He is offering is perfectly different…a love that is totally unconditional and incomparable. And, He alone is already loved.
God has given her love and obliges her to share that love to other people. As well, she learned to have this total self-giving love because God, Himself is LOVE. He is present to all who knows how to love and give love.
To love again, may be a frightening choice. But, how can she know if it is worthy if she is afraid of trying again. She thought, she could only appreciate the real beauty of loving by doing it over and over again without minding the pains gain from it. And, she proves it true.
She opens her heart once more and learns to love again. She goes through different kinds of love and hurts. But each experience is not easy to forget. It all worth to be keep and treasured.
Real love is not easy to be found. Loving is along searching yet a very exciting journey. Each moment experienced is worth to be cherished because of the lessons learned from it. On her part, she can always say that being in love and to know how to love is the greatest lesson she’d ever discovered in her life.
She can now endure all the pains because behind all those, there lays happiness. She may be loveless at this time, but she is still in love to life and to people who surrounds her. She knows that in the future, there is love waiting only for her.
Life is always beautiful especially if it has the essence of love. It will never be complete without the element of LOVE.
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